Being nice is slowly killing you. Let's keep you alive.
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If you nodded through the whole talk, you're in good company.
Medicine trained us to put ourselves last, and it worked a little too well. I got a stomach ulcer as a surgical resident to prove it. Being nice isn't the problem. Being nice to everyone except you is.
The 5 steps to boundaries of steel
Awareness
Know where your boundaries are, and that it's your job to stop crossing them.
Disappoint them, not you
Make peace with disappointing other people instead of yourself.
Say it plainly
Communicate your boundaries clearly and directly. No essay required.
Have your own back
Follow through when people don't respect them. Because some won't.
Love and compassion
Be kind to yourself while you practice. You'll be clumsy at first. Everyone is.
20 years as a breast cancer surgeon. Most of them as a world-class people-pleaser.
I trained at Memorial Sloan Kettering, worked at New York Presbyterian, and ran my own practice for 13 years. I also said yes to everything, apologized for existing, and called it being a team player.
After my 2 boys, I left surgery, said no to admin, pharma, and utilization review, and found coaching. I've been an iPEC-certified coach for 7 years, and I bring the same clinical rigor to boundaries that I brought to the OR, minus the scalpel.
I'm from Rio, coach in English and Portuguese, and spend my free time West Coast Swing dancing in Austin. I teach this because I needed it first.
2 ways to keep going, if you want to
Some of you want to keep working on the boundaries. Some of you want a business that stops costing you yours. Both are good answers.
LIFE AND RELATIONSHIP COACHING
For women in midlife who are done being everything for everyone. We'll unbecome everything you're not, find who you are at your core, and help you live as her, even when the people around you don't love it.
- Boundaries that hold up on a Tuesday, not just in theory
- Less resentment, less overexplaining, more sleep
- In English or Portuguese
THE DOCTOR'S PIVOT
For women physicians building or rebuilding a coaching business. I build it for you, from the offer to the website to the emails, priced so you feel neither guilty nor resentful.
- An offer and pricing you can say out loud without apologizing
- Website, funnels, and emails, all set up
- A business that respects your time, finally
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